Where is the problem? You feel justified.

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"What the heck, here I am, after a hard days work, hoping to reach home and relax, and see what I get?" This is what you might be thinking now.

After a hard day of travel and work, you are in a murderous mood, yelling and screaming at all and sundry.

Your child knows it, your husband knows it, and they quietly retreat into their own worlds. Life is hell, they mutter to themselves.

Is Anger Justified?

On the surface, your reaction is perfectly justified and understandable. After all, who wouldn't rave and rant under such circumstances?

But, what this behaviour does is that it puts everyone on guard, and makes the rest of the evening miserable for everyone at home. The rest of the day passes in silence, punctuated only with absolutely necessary words. The next day is almost a repetition of the same thing. Life obviously cannot go on this way, forever.

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Though the anger can be justified, it really achieves nothing, except to make life more miserable for everyone at home. So, it is important to find some solution.

Why Do We Get Angry?

When you come home and scream, you are actually angry because you have not been able to discipline those around you to behave properly. You are actually angry that your child, husband and mother in law are all on their own trip.

Some anger is also tinged with guilt, because you left your home and your child, to go to work. Some anger is also directed towards yourself, for having taken up such a demanding job. And some anger is anxiety as to how your child will manage when you are absent for longer periods.

Finally, a lot of anger is about not being able to achieve the right balance in life between home, family and work. It is basically about not being in control of your life.

For example, a daughter-in-law, who is angry with her mother-in-law, is angrier with herself for not being able to be assertive, and put her mother-in-law and her husband in place. Any mother who screams at her child is actually ruing the fact that she has not brought up the child in a proper manner.