• Different Life Altogether

What is it to be a mother? Motherhood is not just another change in your life. It is a different lifestyle altogether. Your individuality takes a back seat and you are there to take care of your child first. Contrary to popular perception, motherhood may not always be a beautiful feeling.

The first few months, when it is all about feeding and diaper changing, it all may seem overwhelming. Remember it will remain the same for at least 15 years, till your child can exist completely independently. 

• Financial Implications

While deciding to have a child, finances must be considered beforehand. Forget education, even baby care is an expensive proposition today. 

• Implications on Your Career

If you are working, motherhood will have career implications. You will need to take a break for few months after delivery. If you want to be fair to your child, anywhere between 2-4 years you may not be able to take up high pressure or travelling job assignments.

This may mean missing on regular income you are used to, no bonus, no regular hikes and appreciation you are used to getting at work.

Your colleagues, in the meanwhile, may move ahead, leading to your frustration. 

The picture may not always be this bleak, but you must be prepared for your career to take a backseat when you decide to go for a baby. 

• Real Life Experience

It may be worth it to go and spend a day with a new mother. Ask her what her routine is like everyday. Spend time with mothers who have children in different age groups. It will give you a fair idea of your life ahead.

Your Child's Life Is at Stake!

Remember, all said and done, children remain the responsibility of the mother. If a woman isn't sure if she wants to juggle between mothering and work, she has the right to avoid complications a half-hearted decision may cause in her life.

Author: Anita Dagar

(The author is a freelance writer)