What the Doctors Say
Depending on you and your partner, you can choose either a reversible or an irreversible contraception method. For men, there is the option of withdrawal, condoms or vasectomy. Women can opt to go on the pill, insert a loop or go in for a tubectomy.

According to Psychologist and Pre-marital Counsellor Dr. Meenu Bhosle, if both the partners are working and don't want a baby soon, double protection has to be taken. "Undergoing an abortion causes trauma to the woman and to avoid this, responsibility has to be shared between the partners," she says.

She also emphasises the importance of considering the side effects, both long and short term before deciding on a contraceptive method. "Loops (or intrauterine devices) are unadvisable before the first baby as it can cause heavy bleeding for women during menstruation," cautions Dr. Bhosle. She adds that contraceptive pills have different effects depending on the individual.

Men often believe that condoms reduce pleasure. They also have a misconception that vasectomy reduces their potency but Dr. Bhosle says there is no truth to them. She advises vasectomy to tubectomy (both permanent methods of contraception) as it is quicker and safer.

Matters of the Heart
Remember when Carlos tampered with Gabby's pills, in Desperate Housewives, so he could get her pregnant though she did not want a child?

There are many emotional aspects to be considered when a couple decides to share the responsibility of contraception.

"When couples come to us for counselling, we broach the subject of contraception and invite queries from them. We teach them how to assume responsibilities," says Dr. Bhosle.

The willingness of both the partners to have a part in contraception is also essential. The man should be willing to use a condom. The woman should be willing to bear the side effects (weight gain, breast tenderness and mood swings) of going on the pill. Also, the partners should be understanding and respect what the other is comfortable with.