However, what you have not realised is that you are using one of the most common forms of defence mechanism, rationalisation. If you exhibit this kind of defence mechanism, you will need to justify everything to yourselves and others for everything you do.

From denying relationship problems to blaming alcohol for kissing a random guy, it is very common to use defence mechanisms to suppress your emotions.

"Women use several types of defence mechanisms to protect their ego, minimise anxiety, suppress traumatic experiences and to keep a socially desirable face and front," says Dr. Rajeev Anand, Psychiatrist and Sex Consultant & Counsellor.

Defence mechanisms are helpful in preventing discomfort and it saves time and effort of facing difficult situations.

Let's have a look at common scenarios when you would use defence mechanisms:

• You know things are not working out between you and your husband and you are facing several negative issues. But you would constantly keep telling yourself that everything is fine and there is no need to talk or communicate about the issues and find a solution.

This is a classic case of repression, where you tend to bottle up issues and pretend to be fine.

"When women constantly repress emotional issues, sexuality and other desires, there are chances she might have an unusual outburst of physical or verbal assault that is not expected of her," adds Dr. Anand.

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• You have just had a heartbreak, but you don't accept the fact that the guy has put an end to the relationship.

Denial is used when you can't face reality and your mind subconsciously blocks that thought. Excessive denial takes you away from reality and then you are unable face situations in your life any further.

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• You focus all your energies on becoming like someone you admire; it could be an icon or your mother. This usually happens when you are going through an identity crisis and you don't want to find out about yourself.

Dr. Anand explains that idealisation can be extremely detrimental if the person you idealise lets you down in anyway.