Marriage counsellor Bindu Anand, who has over 30 years of experience in the field, says that as a couple, you fight because:

• You want to keep the love and passion alive in your relationship. After all, fighting in a way, does assert how much you care for him.
• Fighting could also be non-stop action to a never ending issue. For example, disagreement on sensitive issues such as religion or money.
• You could also want to mend what went wrong in your last relationship.
• You could also be fighting when your expectations are not being met. For example, you want him to be 'cleaner', but nothing can change him from being filthy!
• You could also be getting an ego push from fighting. You would experience a high from asserting yourself to be correct.

Ugly Truth?

Fighting, even for fun, is like playing with fire. There is always a risk of your relationship becoming sour.

So, is your relationship in trouble? Bindu tells you how to find out…

You know there is trouble when your differences are all you can think about. You seem to have forgotten all his positive points.

Usually, there is always a scope of resolution among couples. After a day or two of being angry, you want to talk it out and resolve the issues. But your relationship is at risk when this stage just does not seem to arrive.

When you know your basic values, personality and self esteem is being hampered.