So is a pillow-talk always lovey-dovey? Not really.

Dr Suresh believes it’s okay to talk about problems and discomfort in pillow-talk. “If you treat it as a prelude to sex, it might not work. You might feel restrained.”

While initiating the talk, beware.

"Avoid stonewalling, labelling, judging and complaining – it will turn your partner off. Respond, don’t react," says Joglekar.

It's important to keep an open mind, so that you can understand and accept the ‘bad’ your partner may point put.

The difference between day-to-day conversations between partners and a pillow talk lies in this frank exchange. It will not only make both of you feel good, but will help you improve your relationship.

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Make It Happen

A week has passed since you had your last pillow-talk? Don't fret.

There is no time frame to mark ideal frequency of a little heart-to-heart with your partner. Dr Suresh believes that frequency of a pillow talk depends on the urgency you feel to communicate.

"Once both of you get into a habit of connecting, the urgency to open up to each other will increase gradually," says Joglekar.

Remember, it's a habit that will grow with time. Till it grows, you need to make it happen.

Dr. Suresh says, "One of you must take initiative each time. Start by naming an emotion – say what made you happy, angry or sad during the day."

And if your significant other is keen on catching up on some zzzs the moment he hits the pillow, don’t be upset. There’s always tomorrow, even more so in love!