Go Through

There are a few stages that involve feelings, emotions and actions that will help you get through your break up.

The Much Needed Cry

You will have all you gal pals and even family asking you to wipe those tears away. While everything else that they may say is true (about moving on, or you finding a better person) remember that you need to cry.

This is because all the helplessness, loss, anger, frustration, pain and questions come out through your tears. When a steady relationship ends pain, anger, guilt, sense of disbelief and emptiness set in. You might have known it or have been preparing for it, yet it is natural to feel negative after a break-up.

Psychiatrist Dr. Dayal Mirchandani says, "The end of a steady relationship is losing someone who was an integral part of your life and your decisions. So when a relationship ends, it is natural for you to mourn your loss."

You Broke Up Because…

Now that you have cried your heart out, some of you may feel a nagging doubt about whether the break up was a good idea. Some of you may even consider going back to your ex. Even though he may have called it off, you will wonder if you should call him and ask him if you two should be given a second chance.

This unsure feeling of your decision is natural, simply because now that you are alone, the fear of loneliness may take over. This holds true especially if the relationship was a long term one.

Here is an excerpt from: Don't Call That Man: A Survival Guide to Letting Go by Rhonda Findling

Wanting to compulsively call your ex or cling to him when you know the relationship is over can serve to mask or anesthetise your feelings of loneliness, hurt and pain.

You may find yourself staring at your phone, but leave it at that….just stare.

Whenever you feel the urge to call your ex, remember about why you two broke up in the first place. If making a list of problems and negatives helps you control you yearn to call him again, then go ahead and do that.

Nandini Sonal, 29, banking professional says, "I always wondered if I did the right thing after I broke up with my ex. I found myself calling him continuously, even at odd hours. My parents were concerned about my situation and helped me seek professional help."

Here is How You Can Break Up the Right Way.