Now that you have cried your heart out, some of you may feel a nagging doubt about whether the break up was a good idea. Some of you may even consider going back to your ex. Even though he may have called it off, you will wonder if you should call him and ask him if you two should be given a second chance.

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This unsure feeling of your decision is natural, simply because now that you are alone, the fear of loneliness may take over. This holds true especially if the relationship was a long term one. Here is an excerpt from Don't Call That Man: A Survival Guide to Letting Go by Rhonda Findling

Wanting to compulsively call your ex or cling to him when you know the relationship is over can serve to mask or anesthetise your feelings of loneliness, hurt and pain.

You may find yourself staring at your phone, but leave it at that: just stare.

Banking proefssional Nandini Sonal, 29, says, "I always wondered if I did the right thing after I broke up with my ex. I found myself calling him continuously, even at odd hours. My parents were concerned about my situation and helped me seek professional help."

Stay away!

Immediately after your break up some of you may conveniently find yourselves going by his apartment building, shopping in the same super market or even hanging out at the same watering holes when you know he will be there. This is a natural phase because more than you wanting to see him, you will want him to see you.

You may probably do this to show him what he is missing or you two may get together again. Remember that there might be memories attached to places you two visited as a couple. It is better to divert yourself with other activities such as having your friends over, reading a few good books or travelling.