The Red Light Blinks

Psychologist and Psychotherapist Varkha Chulani says, "When you realise you are constantly under pressure from your boyfriend, you are stressed and unhappy in your relationship and had more bad times than good, it just signals that you are in a wrong relationship."

Look into your relationship subjectively and see how you are feeling about the time spent with your boyfriend. If you realise that most of your time spent with him has brought you more pain and sorrow than happiness, you know it is time you put an end to the relationship.

Another key indicator is how you feel before meeting your boyfriend each time. Ask yourself if you look forward to your dates. If you find yourself feeling edgy and depressed instead of excited and happy, it is time you realise that you are not with the person you want to be with.

Also, observe his behaviour - try and see if he is manipulative. This simply means that if he turns the tables on you in an argument or makes you see things the way he wants you to see them (inspite of him being wrong).

For example, you are arguing about him reaching late for a date. If he turns round and tells you it is not his fault but yours and gives you reasons for it, it signals manipulative behaviour.

Remember, you need to look at how he makes you feel when you are with him. If you feel incomplete and undeserving because he says things to make you feel that way, you know that he is the wrong person for you.

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