In both the scenarios – Seema-Rajiv and Vimal-Piya – one partner was constantly suspicious of the other, with or without justifiable reasons. In both the relationships, one partner’s trust had suffered in a past relationship and had rendered them incapable of trusting anyone in the future. However, does having a bad relationship – or having your trust broken once – mean that it will always be the case always?

There is no denying the fragility of trust and the fact that a relationship is made on love but survives on trust. A trust/belief that the other person thinks for our benefit, that s/he will not hurt us and that we will be loved. Once broken, it does take a while to rebuild trust simply because it’s directly related to self-esteem. There is nothing wrong in FEELING hurt when your trust is broken, but to dwell on it could be a one-way street to destroying your own sanity.

What happens when your trust is broken? You lose the ability to BELIEVE another human being, their words, gestures or their feelings for you. When trust is broken, some people can suffer a huge blow to their self-esteem. They feel inadequate and think they were not “good enough” for the other person. They compare themselves to others and will find faults in themselves and areas they lack in. Many people become incapable of ever trusting again or live in constant dread that their trust will be broken again. The result is suspicion, doubt and a wait for doomsday to strike.

Doubt and suspicion are two of the biggest dangers to having a happy relationship. Once you get into the doubt zone, it spirals to the bottom of the pit and doesn’t stop.