Clinical Psychologist Varkha Chulani says, "I don't believe that flirting with another person when you're in a relationship is a good thing because you may not know what you've set yourself up for. If you're not aware of the repercussions, you can easily cross the line."

Menka Rastogi (name changed), a Marketing Executive says, "Even though flirting begins as a harmless, light-hearted and innocent act, you could venture into an illicit affair.

The worst offence in a relationship, according to me, is to flirt on purpose-in order to make your partner jealous or because you want to "show" your partner a thing or two out of pique. It's unfair and can create misunderstandings that can ruin your relationship forever."

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Have You Crossed the Line?

This depends entirely on your mutually agreed upon definition of fidelity-what does it mean to you individually and as a couple?

When there is a mismatch between your individual and mutual expectations of fidelity, there are chances that your flirtation could cross the line.

Varkha Chulani says, "Both partners need to have a mutually agreed upon description of what is acceptable and what's not in a relationship."

When Sara found out that her husband Mihir had a "close" female friend that he made online, she confronted him, obviously shocked and hurt.

But Mihir looked surprised and said that he wasn't cheating on her. She was just someone he met online-a friend; and that he would probably never meet Gina anywhere except in cyberspace.

He argued that making friends of the opposite sex didn't constitute infidelity but it didn't seem right to Sara. She wouldn't do it, so that was applicable to him as well.

"When boundaries are not established in the beginning of a marriage, or when they break down, marriages break down as well" say Doctors Henry Cloud and John Townsend (counsellors and co-authors of the award winning bestseller Boundaries in Marriage).

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This logic is applicable to couples who are in an exclusive relationship as well.

In Boundaries, the authors go on to say, "In a relationship, ownership is also very important. If I know where the boundaries are in our relationship, I know who "owns" things such as feelings, attitudes and behaviours as well. I know to whom they "belong." And if there is a problem with one of those, I know to whom the problem belongs as well."