Your families have accepted you as a couple. But they are not willing to compromise on traditional rituals and ceremonies. In such cases, deciding on a wedding ceremony is not as easy as it might seem. You need to consider everyone's feelings. It is a family matter and you don't want to rub anyone the wrong way.

"We went ahead with a civil marriage because our parents didn't give us their consent. Now that they have accepted things, we have decided to have only a wedding reception. No religious ceremonies," says Sana Vishwanath, a Media professional.

Then there are times when one side has to compromise. Rohini Cardoz who has been happily married since eight years had a civil marriage and a church wedding to please her in-laws. She explains, "My parents were not very keen on the idea they but they agreed. I didn't mind as long as I didn't have to convert. Since the church did not have any objection, we went ahead with it."

Neutral Territory

Sometimes when you belong to two different communities, it is a matter of convenience, rather than choice. Zeenat Rustagi from Mumbai married to a Hindu, says, "We were in Paris and had a civil marriage at the Indian embassy. We both don't practice our respective religions. So rituals and ceremonies weren't important. Also, choosing any one religious ceremony might have upset our families."

One for Everyone

For some it isn't really a decision at all. You just go with the flow and have as many ceremonies as needed to please everyone. Lee Krishnan a teacher by profession says, "His family wanted a Hindu ceremony and mine wanted a Christian one. So we had both ceremonies and a civil marriage. Now we celebrate three anniversaries every year!"

You may have found Mr. Right but there are other issues lying ahead. Make sure you have an open discussion about the kind of ceremony you both would prefer. Try and involve the family too. You don't want to hurt anyone's feelings.