Yes, toddler tantrums can be trying, more so when you are in public. But if you have been paying attention, no tantrum is without good reason.

Behind the Stomping...

...is your little angel, usually just in need of some attention. "Kids are often left with the maid at parties, which makes them feel left out. They use anger as a way to get their parents attention," says Psychologist Sonali Gupta.

Children tend to develop a pattern when it comes to tantrums. So observe carefully. The next time, you will be able to tell the onset of a tantrum and control it on time.

Also, try and understand why he is doing this. For instance, if he throws a tantrum every time you get on the dance floor with your husband, he is probably just jealous. If your child has started talking, then take him aside and ask him why he is upset. "Talk it out; calm them down," advises Sonali.

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Deal with It

Starting a yelling competition with her may seem like the easiest thing to do. But that isn't the solution. Besides, have you heard a kid yell? Chances are that she will win.

"Be firm, not strict," says Sonali. "If they are demanding something, don't give in. Explain why though, so he understands." For instance, if he wants a chocolate NOW, tell him it will ruin his appetite. You could agree to him eating it after dinner.

As little as she may be, she knows you can't stand to see her cry. "Kids often cry to get their way. But you need to be consistent. If you have said no, don't give in later," explains Sonali.

In case she cries every time you have guests over, she might just want you to be there for her. So involve her in the party. Kids love helping out. Be it setting the dinner table or handing out tissues, let her in on the 'fun' too.

"Timeout is used in a big way to deal with temper tantrums," says Sonali. Here, you keep your child isolated for around five minutes.

Timeout will help him calm down and think about what he has done.

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Once timeout is over, don't lecture him again. He is a lot calmer now. This is a good time to explain why he was sent to timeout. Very often kids think the tantrum is the reason for the scolding. But explain that his behaviour was affecting the people around. For instance, screaming in a movie theatre disturbs others and is impolite.

If she gets violent, then you need to be careful about her surroundings. Sharp objects, table corners, glass items, etc. could hurt her. Physically lift and remove her from the environment.  The same goes for public tantrums.

"Take her to a quiet place and give her a break," recommends Sonali. Once she is calm, ask her what's wrong and try and explain your point. "Lay down the norms," says Sonali. "Tell her what you expect of her."